A man has been jailed for eight years for raping a woman in his car in Mapperley Park after she’d asked for a lift.
Following a trial at Nottingham Crown Court Farhad Mostafa, 32, of Kildare Road, Nottingham, was found guilty of raping the woman on Elm Bank Drive on 4 February 2017.
The court heard that the victim saw Mostafa, whom she’d never met before, and two other men after she’d tried unsuccessfully to hail a taxi on Sneinton Dale after a night out.
She approached the group, who were trying to jump start a car, and asked them for a lift.
They agreed and she got into a car with them, with Mostafa driving. The two other men were dropped off before Mostafa drove to a garage to buy beer. He drove off before trying to park on Elm Bank Drive.
The court heard Mostafa had started to put his hand on her thigh but the victim had said ‘no’.
Thinking the car she’d got into was a taxi, she offered Mostafa a £10 note which he took.
She tried to get out but the doors were locked. She asked him to unlock them but he refused before forcing himself on her.
The victim continued to try to get out of the car and tried to push Mostafa away but couldn’t.
After he’d raped her she managed to get out of the car. When she got home she was met by friends and told them what had happened.
During his police interview Mostafa denied raping the woman.
JAILED: Farhad Mostafa
The court heard that his DNA was recovered from a condom found at the scene and his fingerprints were found on the condom packet.
Speaking after Mostafa was sentenced, Detective Chief Inspector Leigh Sanders, from Nottinghamshire Police’s Public Protection, said: “I’d like to commend the immense bravery shown by the victim during this investigation and trial following her terrifying ordeal.
“We hope Mostafa’s conviction and sentence shows that we take all reports of rape and sexual assault extremely seriously.
“We encourage anyone who has been a victim of a rape or sexual assault – whether it is a recent or non-recent offence – to come forward and report it to us.
“Rape can happen to anyone. Some victims mistakenly think they are to blame, or fear they won’t be taken seriously by police or that their integrity will be questioned. Others remain silent out of fear of repercussions from their attacker.
“I can assure them they will be treated with sensitivity, compassion and respect and we can offer them professional support.”
To report an incident in an emergency call 999. In any other situation call the 101 non-emergency number.
An Arnold pub is set to undergo a significant refurbishment, creating five jobs in the process.
The Arrow pub on Gedling Road is closed while undergoing an extensive makeover that will see it reopen with a new look and feel on Friday 15 September.
As part of the investment, the bar area of the Greene King owned pub will have a complete revamp with the addition of contemporary tiling and a modern finish.
The sports viewing will also be enhanced with high quality sound systems from multiple screens throughout the pub – to ensure guests feel like they’re at the heart of the action.
The popular venue will also keep its mouth-watering menu that features dishes such as Chickpea, Spinach and Sweet Potato curry, the Big Daddy Burger with barbeque pulled pork and streaky bacon, as well as Traditional Apple Crumble.
Paul Pincott who runs The Arrow with Sue Pincott, said: “We’re incredibly excited to be undergoing such a huge transformation. The Arrow is a great destination for locals and visitors, so we want to provide even better surroundings and a great menu to both our loyal and new guests alike.
Sue added: “We’re really excited to welcome the people of Arnold to the revamped Arrow on Friday, September 15.”
A global family packaging firm based in Colwick has invested around 350,000 euros in a new gluing machine for its Romania factory.
The Wilkins Group purchased the Omega Allpro 110 Folder Gluer to speed up production and do the job that was previously being done by two machines.
Justin Wilkins, sales director, said: “The kit does all types of weird and wonderful gluing constructions that we have.
“The reason we invested in this is to increase our output on the finishing side. This machine is a real uplift to what we’ve already got out there in terms of speed and set up times, so it will really uplift that end of the business.
“We already have high speed die cutting and printing machines but the gluers were slowing it down. We needed to invest in the gluing area to bring it in line with the rest of the factory. It will make a big difference.”
The kit that this machine is replacing consists of two machines which need two operators and six assistants to operate it per shift. The new machine will need just three people in total, per shift. The remaining staff will be given jobs in other parts of the factory.
The Omega Allpro will do all standard types of gluing and also more complicated types of gluing such as; six corner gluing, four corner gluing and crash-lock base gluing.
The machine will be in place by the end of the year, with the potential of The Wilkins Group utilising the technology in its other worldwide hubs. It employs around 500 staff globally, including in Sri Lanka, China, India and Bangladesh.
The company has recently taken on more staff in its Romania factory. There are now more than 60 people working for The Wilkins Group in Romania.
Justin said: “The future is looking positive for The Wilkins Group.”
People in Gedling borough are being told to ignore a hoax message on social media which warns people not to drink Pepsi because their bottles have been contaminated with HIV.
Several readers alerted Gedling Eye to the message over the weekend which has been circulated on social media and messaging services.
SICK: This message appeared on social media and messaging apps over recent days
The hoax message to “all citizens of the United Kingdom”, which has wrongly been attributed to the Metropolitan Police, tells people not to drink any products from Pepsi for the next few weeks as “a worker from the company has added his blood contained with HIV (AIDS)”.
The Met Police has now confirmed they did not put out the statement.
Police said “this is being treated as a hoax”, adding “the allegation is unsubstantiated”.
A massive event for mums to grab baby products at bargain prices is taking place later this month in Arnold.
The popular Mum2mum Market, which launched in Arnold a year ago, is moving to a larger venue to help cope with increased demand from stallholders.
The events in Arnold will now take place at The Arnold Hill Academy, starting with the next sale on September 16.
At Mum2Mum markets Parents can sell their children’s outgrown clothes, toys, books and equipment to other mums and dads and keep 100 per cent of the profits at the sales.
Local mum and event organiser Lindsey Dudley says “We began holding sales at the Good Shepherd Church in Woodthorpe and have been blown away with the response to our events.
“We’ve welcomed hundreds of buyers and sold out of all stalls at each event, with many repeat sellers. We quickly outgrew the original venue and needed more space so we don’t have to turn sellers away.
“Moving to The Arnold Hill Academy means we can provide more stalls and provide extra space for sellers, and offer our buyers even more choice, with great free onsite parking facilities. Its a wonderful community event, bringing families together- and great for the environment too- as its recycling at its very best!”
Mum2mum Market first hit the headlines 12 months ago after founder Cath Harrop appeared on Dragons’ Den back in March 2016.
There are now over 100 franchisees all over the country and monthly events now taking place all across the region, in Nottingham, Derby, Leicester & Lincoln.
”Lindsey added: “With Mum2mum Market everyone’s a winner. Buyers can source great quality lightly used goods at a fraction of the high street price and sellers keep 100 per cent of their profits. “There are serious savings to be made by buying second hand. With large items like designer prams selling for around a third of the new price and baby and children’s clothes from just 50p, parents can save hundreds of pounds.”
Mum2Mum Market take place at The Arnold Hill Academy on Saturday, September 16 2017 between 2pm-4pm
Admission is £2 on the door, children admitted free, with free admission after 3.30pm. There’s also 241 admission available on the website.
We often hear people say that “history repeats itself”, “I always pick the wrong man”, “I have to look after everyone else and make sure they are ok” or “I am the only one in my family who can organise things and get them done, the rest are useless”.
Maybe we wonder why they don’t do something different’ let people look after themselves or even stop being responsible for people.
It’s down to us getting stuck in what Stephen Karpman called the “Drama Triangle”, which is both an easy to understand and powerful way of looking at how we can get stuck in relationships, work and life in general. Each point on the triangle represents a common and ineffective response to conflict and relationships that will simply keep us in a miserable position. But even worse, it will make us feel ashamed at some level.
The Drama Triangle
Everyone has a favoured position on the triangle and when an issue arises we will start the ‘game’ from our favoured position. Why we have these favoured positions is down to what we learned in our family as a child. For example: I got most attention when I cared for, or looked after, others so I am a bit of a rescuer at times.
Our starting position is always a hook from the other participant(s) or if someone else knows exactly what to say or do (consciously or unconsciously) to get us in to our favourite part of the triangle. However, as the ‘game’ continues we can move around the triangle taking up another position if our favoured position doesn’t get us what we want. I call the interactions ‘games’ as these interactions are being ‘played’ by the participants and aren’t from a ‘real‘ or “congruent” place.
Victims take up the helpless and hopeless role, by denying responsibility for what is happening in their lives or relationships, and they do less than their share and will not stand up for themselves. Life is against them, out to get them, they pretend to be incompetent and are hyper sensitive. – “it’s always me this happens to”
Rescuers love a good victim; they want to help/take over the victim’s problems which is usually at the cost of their own needs. A rescuer will always have a slightly martyred attitude to life as they have ‘helped’ so many people. Rescuers will be tired, harried and often physically ill, unable to put their own needs first but able to get what they need on occasions by guilt – “after all I’ve done for you”
Finally, persecutors are the fault finders, who blame and criticize the victim and scoff at the ‘help’ provided by the rescuer. They will not, however, offer any form of advice, guidance or support about the issues but just look for the blame or fault being someone else’s. Often persecutors are simply unpleasant nit-pickers who control wherever they can with rigidity, threats and need order to be able to survive. – “you never do anything right”
Over all, victims need and depend on being saved, rescuers crave for a sad and lost soul and persecutors need a fall guy.
How do we know when we are in this triangle? The victim normally starts off the drama triangle. The victim, when not being “persecuted”, will go and find both a persecutor and a rescuer who will “save” the day but even so, the victim still feels in a hopeless place. So, when we don’t take responsibility for our feelings and, therefore, make ourselves a victim, we are setting up and playing our way around the drama triangle.
A typical move round the triangle could look a bit like this where (P) is the persecutor, (V) is the victim and (R) is the rescuer –
Jeff: I can’t believe you are late again! We will let my brother down again! (P)
Clare: Well, Pete fell and cut himself, I was busy getting him a plaster. (R)
Jeff: You spoil and fuss over the kids! (P)
Clare: You wouldn’t want him to get an infection, after all it would be me who had to take care of him wouldn’t it. (V)
Jeff: He’s old enough to get his own plaster. (R)
Clare: I just didn’t want him bleeding on everything. (R)
Jeff: You know, that’s the problem with kids! They think you do everything! (R)
Clare: That’s only natural, they are still little. (R)
Jeff: I work like a dog all day at a job I hate… (V)
Clare: Yes, you do work very hard. (R)
Jeff: And I can’t even go out in time to see my family (V)
Clare: Well maybe if you could have dragged yourself away from the computer for a few hours every now and then, I wouldn’t be late (P)
Clare: You didn’t say anything! How was I supposed to know? (P)
Clare: As if you couldn’t hear him crying? You just ignore the kids and think it’s my job! (P)
Jeff: I do not, I just need time to sit and relax and unwind. You don’t know what it’s like to do my job you know it’s… (V)
Clare: As if taking care of the house and kids and going work doesn’t count! WORK my…! (P)
We can see the roles being swapped all the way through that interaction and they all are forms of defence or attack, or a to and fro conversation where both are trying to manoeuvre the other in to a one down position. No one actually says what they mean or how they feel so Jeff feels let down as Clare is late and Clare feels that she has to deal with the kids on her own. What we can also see is that no one gets their own needs met and all this results in is drama.
There are an awful lot of these triangles, not just in relationships, but in our lives if we choose to play them, some of the obvious ones are –
Work – my manager picks on me, I work too hard, I’ll bury you In paperwork
Alcohol – you’re no fun if you don’t drink, go ahead have another, I’ve been drinking all my life it’s not an issue
Money – If you loved me you’d lend me the cash, I lent him £500.00 and then he denied and said it was a present and I have no proof of the loan
So when we find ourselves in this triangle we need to change the roles we play. To stop being part of the drama triangle we have to be honest with ourselves and acknowledge all of our feelings. That means recognising even the painful ones. We also need to look at self-acceptance as part of the process.
Victims need to be honestly vulnerable and reach out for help if they need it, not in a dramatic way but in an authentic way. They need accept the situation they are in and to need accept that it is down to themselves to get resolve it, with the help of others if necessary. Victims must look at why they want to stay childlike and needy, and why they want to be dependant and unable to take responsibility for themselves? Why do they need to manipulate others to take care of them?
Rescuers need to put boundaries in place and not let their fears, guilt, regrets or people pleasing turn them into a martyr. They need to stop doing the thinking, doing and leading for others and become empathic and caring in order to ‘empower’ others to do what they need to. They also need to stop viewing the victim in the one down position i.e. they can’t help themselves without them. Rescuers have to face up to a need to keep others dependant on them and why they feel others are so needy they have to be their ‘saviour’? They also find it even more difficult to admit that despite the fact that they moan about the role its where their self-worth comes from.
Persecutors need to stop blaming and manipulating and look at being assertive. They need to state their needs without aggression or threat, give constructive feedback and negotiate. Again they need to stop viewing the victim and rescuer in a one down position. Persecutors need to look at why they feel they have been treated unjustly and why that is down to others. Persecutors need to look at why they feel the need to be in a superior position and be blameless which can prove to be be even more difficult.
Some other things we need to think about are not going into a relationship or roles feeling superior or as an equal. Check out the patterns in life, are we always helping or protecting others and feeling like that’s our role in life? Is it guilt or is it feeling selfish that stops us from looking after ourselves?
If we deny our feelings they will eventually catch up with us and make us react impulsively, we will be driven by those feelings and if we have black and white beliefs like life is hard we will automatically look for other players in the drama triangle.
It’s not easy to be completely honest with yourself and where you are on this triangle. You need to look at childhood patterns within your family, your beliefs and your feelings. Then once you know who you are, you can move away from and recognise the drama triangle.
A mixed bank holiday weekend for the Eagles started with a 2-0 home win against local side Radford FC. Two players with their first goals for the Club, Eugene Francis on 66 minutes and David Boafo, pictured, celebrating, on 89 minutes secured the three points against tricky opposition.
On the Tuesday evening the Eagles made the short trip up to Gedling Miners Welfare, a local derby if there was ever one, the Miners ground probably nearer to Arnold than the Eagles own ground.
A bumper crowd were to be rewarded with an excellent display of football, a credit to the two East Midland Counties League sides who had both recorded good wins at the weekend, the Miners winning 5-1 at Stapenhill.
Arnold had to make several changes to the side that beat Radford on Saturday due to work etc, one being that player/manager Tom Richardson found himself between the sticks due to both keepers being unavailable.
It was the Miners who struck first after 16 minutes, Knight’s header finding the net. The Eagles were then level when skipper James Greenhalgh fired home on 24 minutes. The Miners were back in front two minutes later through Plummer and Lance Cunningham made it three on 33 minutes. Before the Eagles could take stock of the situation they found themselves 4-1 down on 35 minutes when Ben Hunt unfortunately turned the ball into his own net at the far post. The Eagles pulled one back on 43 minutes when Jourdan Blair’s 20 yard freekick found the back of the net and they were unlucky not to get a third a minute later when another shot skidded past the wrong side of the post.
The second half was a more even contest without further score until Jepson sealed the win in the 83rd minute to give the Miners their second big win in four days.
On Saturday, September 9 they are in FA Vase action against Westella & Willerby of the Humberside Premier League again at Eagle Valley. The Vase game will be played to a finish with extra time and penalties if required.
The last day of the summer service is September 10. However the Sunday service will continue as usual although the 12.18pm Netherfield to Nottingham and 17.52pm Carlton to Nottingham services will not run after this date. Cheap advance summer fares are also due to end at the same time.
NEW EAST MIDLANDS FRANCHISE
The commencing date has again been put back to Autumn 2019, with the decision as to who will run the franchise being announced in April 2019.
The delay has been brought about by the decision to cancel electrification of the Midland Main Line, meaning that the terms of the new contract has had to be revised. Whoever takes over will be required to deliver “modern, fast and efficient inter-city and commuter trains”, and these will include a new fleet of bi-mode inter-city trains for London to Sheffield and Nottingham services from 2022.
The changeover point from electric to diesel will be at Kettering, as electrification from Bedford to Corby via Kettering is going ahead. What it could mean is that these trains will cease to call at Wellingborough, Bedford, Luton and Luton Airport Parkway and for these stations you will have to change at Kettering into a Corby to London St. Pancras service. In this way, and with track improvements going ahead, journey times to London should be reduced, although bi-mode trains are heavier, and therefore slower than the current High Speed (HST) trains.
HST’s are now over 40 years old, but still giving good service, and many prefer them to the newer trains on other lines. They are due to be ‘retired’ at the end of 2019 as they do not comply with the ‘Persons of Restricted Mobility’ regulations, and it would probably be too costly to upgrade them. So, for a couple of years before the new trains appear, we could go back to having a diesel locomotive and coaches on some London services.
As mentioned previously, it has been recommended that Netherfield should have 15 trains a day calling, instead of the seven at present, when the new franchise commences. I was going to give my choice of the times when these extra trains should call, and the reason, but this can wait now the franchise decision is delayed, but I am always pleased to have your suggestions, as the new franchisee may take note of what we would like.
PASSENGER NUMBERS AT CARLTON
Some more record numbers. 161 joined the 08.08am Matlock service over 5 days between June 26 – 30. This was 105 back in 2016. On Mon, Aug 14 I was advised that 22 people including children joined the 10.08am service to Matlock. On August 23, 20 adults and 4 children joined the 09.05am service to Matlock. I did predict in 2010 that if we had an hourly service “..passenger figures would increase probably by 100% from 60 to 120 per day…” Actually, there must be around 240 per day now on weekdays.
Saturday trains are quite popular, and the new Sunday trains are being well used from most stations on the line.
Again I would like to thank all who have provided me with the numbers joining and alighting from trains they have used, as I don’t have time to see many trains after the morning rush hour. One day in July I heard the 08.51 Netherfield to Skegness had 23 join.
EAST MIDLANDS PARKWAY STATION
East Midlands Airport and the Confederation of British Industry (CBI) have called for improved railway links to the station, and the airport has offered to put forward £2.5m towards the changes it wants to see. These are new services and also improved frequencies of trains at the station. They also want to change the station name to East Midlands Airport Parkway. The current timetable off-peak has trains to London at 35 and 43 mins past each hour (52 minute gap), plus the Lincoln to Leicester services. We get a few direct trains from Carlton to and from East Midlands Parkway.
NEWS IN BRIEF
Plans are underway to sell Gedling Youth Club and the old stations building to the highest bidder. The Friends of Gedling Station are committed to obtaining Heritage Lottery funding to save this fabulous piece of local history. Please join the campaign. You can read more about it HERE.
Newark Castle Station Cafe should be open by the beginning of September. It will be environmentally friendly with no plastic bottles, only cans, cartons and glass bottled drinks being on sale, you can also bring your own container.
It’s the annual Station Adopters Conference at Derby on Friday, September 8. We get to meet the managers of East Midlands Trains, so if there is anything you think ought to be mentioned, let me know.
Next summer the track and signalling around Derby station is to be upgraded as part of a £200m project beginning on July 22, 2018. The station will be partially closed for 79 days. A full and detailed revised timetable will be published in the new year. Once complete, services will be better segregated, reducing journey times. A new platform will also be built. Only service to and through Derby will be affected. Some, like Nottingham to Birmingham, will use a route that avoids Derby.
The 11.24am Saturday Carlton to Leicester service is usually very busy, especially when Forest are playing at home, ad during the weeks just before Christmas. The 11.08am train to Matlock will give a connection to the 11.32am train to Leicester and you don’t have to pay extra to travel on this London-bound service, as some thought.
A very feisty match, which saw a flurry of yellow cards, saw Carlton grab three more points, writes Josh Hodgson.
The first half saw Bedworth dominate, repeated through balls inbetween the centre backs saw Carlton on the back foot throughout.
In the 25th minute the pressure paid off as Bedworth’s Elliot Parrott slotted home from a corner which Carlton’s defence did not deal with.
The second half saw the game change with manager Wayne Scott bringing on Aaron Hooton for the home side. The change in tactics confused Bedworth who were pegged back before they could re-adjust themselves.
A Danny Gordon free kick swooped into the bottom right from 40 yards with the keeper unable to reach. 8 minutes later Jordan Wilson latched onto a through ball to go one on one and find the back of the net with no trouble.
Late worries emerged for Bedworth as keeper James Martin went of injured, looking visibly in agony.
Three points for the home side has Miller’s fans hopeful for the season ahead.
Police are reminding residents in Arnold to make sure their vehicles are secure after a spate of thefts overnight.
Items were removed from a number of vehicles in the Redhill area of the town on Thursday and Friday evening.
Four vehicles were targeted in total; two of the vehicles were parked on Henry Street.
Police have said that there was no signs of forced entry to the vehicles, which has prompted the reminder.
A spokesman for Nottinghamshie Police said: “With each of the thefts, there were no signs of forced entry to the vehicles and items have then been taken from within.
“Can we please remind residents to ensure their vehicles are locked when leaving them and that any valuable items are removed. Items being left on show in vehicles only encourages the criminals.”
If you witnessed any of the incidents or have any information, please call Nottinghamshire Police on 101, or Crimestoppers on 0800 555 111. Likewise, if you do see anyone acting suspiciously in your area, please contact us on 101 or if it is an emergency, 999.
